When a guy claims he’s "too nice to find a girlfriend" … yellow flag or red flag?
@spinning_bird Definitely red to me. Whatever experience they had in the past, they are not being honest about why it didn't work out and try to paint themselves as basically blameless.
This kinda rhetoric also just generally paints an image of a very unpleasant person to me.
@mezz that's my impression as well, and why I'd also tend towards saying it's a red flag.
And I mean, perhaps this person is even believing it himself, so it may be "honest", but in a naive way that reveals a lot of insecurities... i don't know.
I'm only shocked because it came from someone I didn't expect this from, and whom I respected.
sounds like coded language for "girls like guys who are mean to them" which is common sentiment in the 'manosphere' subculture which turns women into science experiments and dating into weird number games; this subculture usually overlaps with the incel community because these misogynistic beliefs perpetuate a cycle of failed relationship attempts that faux-reinforce their toxic worldview.
of course i could be overanalyzing this. would need more information about the person lol
@buru5 I had to look up manosphere and that sent me down a rabbit hole. At least now I know what 304 means.
i don't think the person in question is part of those kind of subcultures, like the "red pill" type. But you never know...
@spinning_bird@mstdn.games nice people don't brag that they're nice